Romantic relationships can provide some of life’s most rewarding experiences- love, companionship, safety and collaborative partnership. However, merging our lives with another person can also be fraught with difficulties. Maybe you can’t seem to figure out how to communicate what you need without explosive arguments, or have avoided communicating altogether. Maybe you’ve become ships passing in the night and you’re unsure how to reach one another. Perhaps you get along wonderfully but have lost that erotic fire that once burned for one another. Whatever the case may be, it’s incredibly normal to need some guidance in getting on the same page and forging a path forward.
As a couple’s therapist I can serve as an unbiased third party to help you to make sense of what’s happening in your relationship and unravel the tangled confusion that may have resulted from months or years of missed communication. I can help you to dive beyond fear to uncover what you truly want and need from one another, and teach you communication skills to express these in ways your partner can actually receive. I teach techniques for slowing down and attuning to one another so both parties can truly feel heard and held and supported, as opposed to fighting over who’s right and who’s wrong. Finally, I can help you to negotiate solutions to your struggles in ways that recognize the need for compromise and collaboration.
In my work with couples I believe that change is always possible, but is rarely easy. I provide skills that can be practiced regularly outside of sessions in order to build a strong foundation of communication and mutual respect.